It has been nearly 10 years since I was pregnant last, but my body seems to remember exactly what to do, with the exception of my breast…they hurt like hell, like they have never done this before. It reminds me of my first pregnancy, but my second was closer than 10 years so they didn’t seem to bother me as much. Each week, I stand in the mirror and look at the changes happening to my body. As a woman who is almost 40, these changes will be much harder than when I was in my late 20’s. I am starting to notice a bump, but when I show my kids or husband they just laugh and say “ya right!” This week marks 12 weeks for me, I am now moving into my 2nd trimester, so I thought it makes sense to take my first picture and share it also with the Intended Parents so they feel part of the process. While the bump isn’t that noticeable to everyone, for me, it is starting to really show.
Now that I am starting to get a bump, things are getting tighter and tighter making it more and more uncomfortable to wear my normal pants. It isn’t unbearable, just starting to feel irritating by the end of the day. I get home, take off my pants, throw on lounge wear and just let my belly relax in comfort. Okay so this is a normal course of action for me, I am not much for street clothes while I am home, I would rather be in something comfy for the evening routine…don’t worry I am not the type to wear my PJs to the grocery store or out of the house for that matter. I see people all the time at the store in their PJs but I just can’t bring myself to do this, it seems wrong for some reason.
With my expanding belly, I have been thinking about the right time to tell my work. I have friends at work that already know and others that I would like to tell, but I think it is best to tell my boss first – right? I am thinking after the holidays and before we head to Mexico for a much needed vacation. So now I have to figure out how to tell him. Being a surrogate is so exciting, but it takes more explanation than “I am pregnant” and “I am due.” People want to know the story, they want to know if I am taking maternity leave…yep, sure am! I am sure he won’t ask that many questions, being a man and all, but I can’t figure out the best words to use. Should I go with “I am pregnant with another couple’s baby” or “I am pregnant, and it isn’t my husbands” (Ha!) or “I am pregnant as a surrogate” Regardless of my choice of words, I know my company will be supportive and I am excited to let the cat out of the bag and be able to talk about this awesome adventure.