Billy and I had our Psych consultation today with someone our Lawyers recommended. The great news is that they were located just 10 minutes from me, and anyone that knows me, knows I am a girl of convenience.
We arrived and waited for our turn, among couples in therapy as well as teenage kids. I couldn’t help but wonder why they were all there, I started to put stories together in my mind of what they would talk about and I realized how lucky I was to have a strong marriage and wonderful family support. Marriage and parenting isn’t always easy, but then I stop to think about how much harder it could be.
Recently a friend just lost her husband in a skiing accident at a local resort and left behind a son who was 10, and two older kids and a grandchild with one on the way. I can’t imagine having to go through that sort of loss at such a young age, and early on in their marriage. But that is the crazy thing about life, you don’t think you can handle anything that tragic and yet somehow we make it through.
The appointment went very well, we were asked a series of questions about our marriage, our kids, family and our childhood. But the best piece of advice that she gave us was that even though you won’t be taking home this baby, remember that you need support too, so let people bring you meals, help with your kids and take it easy. That was good for me to hear, because I have a tendency to not ask for help, and tell others “no I am fine” when they ask what they can do to help.
Please remind me of this post if I end up telling you I don’t need anything….On to the next adventure, we passed!