Around a week ago, I received a text from Sara letting me know that she was on track and they would be heading to Salt Lake for her egg retrieval on 8/4. Her ultrasound showed 30+ eggs that were maturing nicely and her body was reacting perfectly to the new medicine dosages. After the last hyperstimulation, it was so nice to hear that she was right on track.
The next step was a final Ultrasound Monday 8/3 to confirm everything looked perfect for the trigger shot to get the eggs ready to be removed. On Monday, Sara called with ecstatic news letting us know that they were coming for sure on Tuesday bright and early around 8 am. As luck would have it, I had an Ultrasound that morning as well. My body has been producing cysts which will get in the way of the process so I had to go on Birth Control for 3 weeks to see if it would shrink. I was so nervous for the results, my palms were sweating, and my heart was racing during the appointment. But guess what??? No cyst, everything looked perfect and I could go off the Birth Control after a few more days. Then on Tuesday 8/11, I will go in for a final Ultrasound and blood draw for my Estradiol suppression check.
So Sara and I have a crazy connection, not sure exactly what it is, but the universe definitely wants us to be part of each other’s lives. As I was waiting for Rachel to give me my instructions I was texting Sara with the news about the cyst shrinking and she said “I can’t wait to hear the implantation date” and the next thing I know Rachel is walking into the room with the calendar for me. So weird! Looks like 8/31 is the big day for the embryo transfer.
Sara and Derek spent the day Tuesday checking out the city and then headed over to the fertility clinic to meet the doctors and nurses. It is so strange to think that we have been going through this for months and this is the first time they are meeting the doctor who will be performing the procedure. After 3 hours, they arrived at our house to meet Billy and Lauren while I was at a dentist appointment. Not being home to greet them for the first time was killing me, but I had to have a weird procedure done to cut the muscle on the bottom of my gums that connects to my teeth because it was making my gum line recede. Which by the way wasn’t too bad, but it has been pretty sore around my chin crease below my lip. Anyway, I finally headed home with a numb lip to meet Sara and Derek.
What a weird experience to meet Sara and Derek after all this time, nearly 8 months and I have committed to carrying their child without meeting them in person. The thing is, it has felt like I have known them for years, like we have been friends forever. Meeting them in person only confirmed how I was feeling, and spending 2 days with them, it felt easy and comfortable with them in our home.
That night, we went out for dinner to a Thai place near us, Derek mentioned they don’t have many ethnic restaurants in Napa so it was a nice treat. The restaurant was very understated, but that is what you usually get in Utah where adults feel the need to take their kids everywhere. We were excited to share a bottle of wine and toast to how far we have come. Normally I wouldn’t bring up the restroom, but given the amazingness (is that a word) of this particular bathroom I had to share. The bathroom was a one man stall and was huge. It had a toilet in the corner and it was divided by the other portion with a dish rack. The rack was filled with all sorts of fake plants from top to bottom. But the best part were the leaves…yes leaves, all over the floor, everywhere, like you were on a walk on a blustery fall day.
So odd…Once I got back to the table, Billy and Derek were laughing about the wine situation. I noticed the waitress was showing the men three options to choose from. Two bottles were open and nearly gone and only one was unopened, so that is what we picked. When the bottle of red wine arrived, it came over ice, which is usually reserved for white wine. Sara and Derek live in the wine Mecca of the U.S. and here were in SLC sitting in a Thai restaurant drinking red wine over ice.
Sara’s surgery to remove her eggs was scheduled for Wednesday 8/5, which was the next day. They headed to the fertility clinic around 10:30am and by 1:30pm they were back. Sara was pretty sore, but we set up a recovery station on the couch to let her rest. After they did the surgery, they were able to retrieve 25 eggs, and of the those eggs, 15 were mature. Derek was able to provide a viable sample and they started the fertilization process that day. Sara sent a text to let me know that of the 15, all 15 were viable, we were hoping for 4-8. Two were in excellent quality, five in good plus, two in good quality, and the rest go down from there, but the majority are good or better, something the clinic was very happy about.
Over the last two weeks I have been thinking a lot about the embryo transfer date and I keep thinking that I need to implant two embryos. When I reached out to Sara initially to let her know my thinking she said “I think we are mentally connected.” From the time we started the contract phase, I was pretty sure that I only wanted to transfer one embryo, but now that we have come this far, I am feeling differently. Sara and Derek may only have one shot at this, and if we can up the odds with just one IVF transfer (either one or two babies) then I would like to give it a shot.
Sara and Derek left bright and early last Thursday morning and when we said our goodbyes at 4am, I had to let them know that all night I dreamt in twos, so I had made my decision and I was fine with transferring two embryos. The thought is a bit scary, knowing that we are increasing our odds of twins, but two for the price of one, this is a possible dream come true for them.
This weekend, we are sitting up in Bear Lake at a friend’s house enjoying the beautiful view with a house full of darling kids and dear friends. While the weather has not cooperated, we have spent our time shaping brows, dying and cutting hair, and sitting on the beach while the kids enjoyed the cold, cold water. I am dying to share my news with my girl friends, needing to confide in someone about everything going on, but Billy and I decided early on to share the news once we were pregnant.
On Tuesday, I will go in for my final ultrasound and suppression check to start my Estradiol. They felt confident that I would be ready to start the process of getting my body ready for the transfer. Then after another ultrasound on 8/26, I will start Progesterone shots and on 8/31, they will do the transfer of two embryos. We will do the first pregnancy test on 9/12 and an Ultrasound to hear the fetal heart Rate on 9/30.
The amazing thing is that I am heading out the following day to Bear Lake again for Bitches Be Free 2015 weekend with my lady friends, so I should be able to share the good news. I can’t wait to see their faces, I hope they are as excited for me as I am!