A week ago today, we picked up my adorable nephew Wesley from his parents so that my sis-in-law could labor in peace. It wouldn’t be long until we would meet this new baby and find out if it was a boy or girl. Hoping to hear from them later that evening that they were headed to the hospital, it surprised me that I didn’t get a text until the next morning around 5:30 am. Was this going to be the longest labor in history???
That Monday was a holiday, so we hung around the house playing with Wesley (nearly two) and our kids hoping, waiting and never letting four phones leave our sides. Finally around 3pm, we received the text that the baby was here. We were elated, and couldn’t wait to hear if it was a boy or girl. After a series of texts from Billy’s family probing for an answer, they finally called to tell Wesley that he was a big BROTHER! Another boy? How could this be? I knew for sure it was going to be a girl, well at least I thought it was :). We planned to head up to the hospital so Wesley could meet his brother and we could meet Bennett Anthony as well.
After the news, it was time to prep for our annual Valentines dinner, only a day late but we were determined to make it happen. Each year, I buy a few pounds of King crab legs and make a delicious feast for the family to enjoy. This year Wesley joined us and couldn’t get enough of the crab. The meal was delicious, but it felt rushed since we were headed to the hospital.
We arrived to see the baby and Wesley was so excited to see his parents and meet his new brother. Andrea and Joel purchased a set of babies, one girl, one boy to give to Wesley when the baby arrived. He opened the present with gusto and was so excited to have a baby of his very own, but not before he offered to share them with Bennett. After an hour, we headed home to get the kids to bed and get ready for the work week ahead of us.
This week I turned 21 weeks, and the baby is the size of a pomegranate, he is kicking, moving and turning so much each day and it is fun to feel him grown and squirm around. Over the last two weeks, my belly has really started to grow. People are commenting on how I finally look pregnant and some of my maternity tops are finally starting to fit. Last week I broke down and purchased maternity workout clothes. I don’t recall having them with either of my kids, and I am not sure how I managed without them. They are amazing and feel so much more comfortable on my stomach than the regular pants. Earlier this week, I purchased another round of maternity clothes to try, I am running out of things to wear for work and really could use some dressier clothes – anyone have any good suggestions?
On Wednesday night, I received an email from Sara and Derek that they had posted the surrogate announcement on facebook and when I opened up my app I was overwhelmed by the love and support coming from their friends, family and mine as well. The facebook announcement was amazing, something I always expect from Sara. She has a gift with her words, and it couldn’t have been more perfect.
Life works in mysterious ways. I have learned one thing to be true so far… if you do not open your heart to the journey, you may miss the magic.
We never would have dreamt 4+ years ago that we would find ourselves facing the reality of a life without children of our own. We had it all planned out after all; even took a “pre-baby-moon” vacation to France in 2011 intending to be “with child” within a few months. The unfortunate certainty being that things do not always go as planned.
A little over a year ago, we were told that attempting to birth our own children would risk my life to the extent that our doctor forbid us from going forward. One brunch, a tearful girl’s night out, and a holiday later, two dear friends, Judi and Jaimi, brought together two Sara’s, unknowingly leading the way to two dreams come true.
Derek and I are deeply humbled and overjoyed to share that with the help of an incredible woman, whom I share the same name, and her amazingly supportive family, we will be welcoming our very own baby boy into the world at the end of June!
We cannot express our gratitude to friends and family near and far, close and extended, for all of the love and support over what has been an unexpected adventure of experiences and emotions. We have been carried by you through the toughest of times and thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
We welcome you to share our story with others and to follow Sara‘s perspective on her blog going live in the near future.